Breaking Up is Hard to Do and So is Starting Something New

Don't take your love away from me
Don't you leave my heart in misery
If you go then I'll be blue
'Cause breaking up his hard to do

Remember when you held me tight
And you kissed me all through the night
Think of all that we've been through
Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

They say that breaking up is hard to do
Now I know, I know that it's true
Don't say that this is the end
Instead of breaking up I wish that we were making up again

I beg of you, don't say goodbye
Can't we give our love another try
Come on baby, let's start a new
'Cause breaking up is hard to do
-Neil Sedaka, “Breaking Up is Hard to Do”


Greetings. They say breaking up is hard to do and having experienced a break up or two I couldn’t agree more. However, getting together with someone new is also difficult, especially when it follows a tough break up.

For the past year and a half I’ve been recovering from a tough break up trying to piece back together my life. It was a long arduous road that at times was dark and lonely and often appeared to be never ending. I never thought I would have ended up on this road to begin with. We were perfect together, meant to be together forever and somewhere along the way our signals got crossed and we drifted apart. More like we ran into an iceberg, but you get my drift.

The aftermath was a long road to recovery which undoubtedly left a few broken hearts along the way. There were some very important people who tried to help me recover and did the best they could to mend together my broken heart. However, there wasn’t much any of them could do to repair it; I just wasn’t ready. Over time and with much prayer and hard work, I’m ready to move on; ready to love again and be loved; ready to make someone new the center of my life. However, that isn’t as easy it sounds.

Starting a new relationship means being done with the old one. It means apologizing to all the women who wanted to be next to fill the position, when I wasn’t even ready to evaluate applications. It means leaving the baggage I collected from my previous situation at the airport for TSA to blow up like they do all unattended baggage. I don’t want it any more, I don’t need it anymore and it’s better off being destroyed.

Before I can be with anyone else, just her and I, before we can start singing love songs, before we can tie the knot, I have to prepare myself mentally and emotionally for the challenges that accompany being in a committed relationship. I’d venture to say that it’s like riding a bike that once you learn how to be in a committed relationship you never forget. But that doesn’t mean if you aren’t conscious in the steps it takes to ride that bike that you won’t fall off.

I’m leaving behind all the baggage I picked up along the way here and there and only bringing the memories and life lessons I’ve learned. They say breaking up is hard to do and so is starting fresh with someone new. But I’m Ready. Stay Up and Stay Blessed!